This statement speculates on how you view people and their expected behavior. If you believe that people’s behavior doesn’t change over time, then you probably rely on past history to make decisions about people. This may also reflect your desire to maintain the status quo. You find it more comfortable to judge people as “you have always known them” than to risk changing your view of them and being proved wrong.
Maintaining the status quo means you like things just as they are and do not welcome change. People who like to do familiar tasks learn how to do something and then enjoy doing it over and over.Change often causes them anxiety and makes them uneasy. In partnerships, we are frequently asked to do something differently. If change makes you uncomfortable, you may find a partnership an anxiety-ridden affair.
Competitively driven people focus on creating situations where they can win. While sometimes this helps them succeed, it can be a liability when forming a partnership. In partnerships, the focus switches from a competitive win-lose dynamic to a collaborative win-win approach. Competitiveness, by its very nature, sets up win-lose dynamics
and impedes the growth of healthy partnerships.Competitive behavior is also an indicator of a high need for independence. The nature of competition means you “go it alone” to win.To get everyone’s needs met, all parties must work together.
